The four checks
- Government ID — the name, face and date of birth are confirmed against a document, so we know who he is before anyone else meets him
- An interview — a conversation about why he wants this work and how he handles a situation that turns awkward
- References — people who have worked with him, asked directly rather than read off a page he wrote
- A criminal background check — run on the person the ID identified, not on the name he gave us
Why the interview carries more weight than it sounds
Documents establish that someone is who he says he is. They say nothing about whether he is good company for a woman who is nervous, or whether he can be told no without sulking. That is what the conversation is for.
It is also the step that most often ends an application. Plenty of people pass a background check and are still wrong for this — too keen, too interested in the wrong part of it, unable to describe a boundary in their own words.
What vetting cannot do
It cannot promise you a good evening. Verification tells you that the person arriving is real, identified, and has no record that should have stopped him — it does not predict whether the two of you will get on, and no amount of screening ever will.
That is why the checks are only half of it. First meetings are recommended in public places. Boundaries are agreed in writing before you meet. Either side may end the experience if comfort is broken, and using that is never rude. Vetting reduces the risk of who; those three reduce the risk of what happens next.
What you should be able to check yourself
Ask any service how it verifies people, and listen for whether the answer is specific. "Everyone is vetted" is a slogan. A list of steps you can repeat back is a process.
The same goes for money: terms you can read before you pay, payment through the agency's own channel rather than into somebody's personal account, and a refund window stated up front. If the answer to any of those changes each time you ask, that is the signal — not the price.
Frequently asked questions
What exactly is checked before a boyfriend is listed?
Government ID, an interview, references taken up with people who have worked with him, and a criminal background check. All four are completed before the profile goes live, not afterwards.
Is the background check run on his real identity?
Yes — that is the reason ID comes first. A check run on a name somebody typed in is worth very little; a check run on a person whose document has been confirmed is worth something.
Does being verified mean he is guaranteed to suit me?
No, and we would rather say so. Verification is about safety and identity. Whether you enjoy his company is a different question, which is why you choose who you book and can end a booking whenever you like.
Can I ask for more detail about someone before I book?
Yes. Ask our team anything you would want to know before meeting a stranger. If a question can be answered without breaching his privacy, it will be.
Are clients checked too?
The protections run both ways: both people are 18 or over, boundaries are agreed before the booking, and either side may end the experience if comfort is broken.